Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Greencards & Marriage Equality

I can't even begin to say how incredible this is: gay Americans can now sponsor their foreign-born husbands or wives for a greencard. What an amazing difference this decision is making right now in the lives of so many thousands of people. The first gay couple's greencard application has already been approved. Check out this Advocate article about it all. 

For me, this is so personal. I have my greencard now and I'm not married, but just to know that this is now an option for gay people just like it has been for straight people all this time is an amazing feeling. I almost find it hard to believe, as I spent so many years under the constant stress of not knowing if I would be able to stay in this country. I'm not going to admit to having married a woman for my greencard in the late 90s (in fact I will deny it -- that is not how I got my greencard) but I know so many people who were forced to take those steps, and when my student visa was expiring and I needed to figure out a way to be able to stay with my boyfriend in New York, I certainly didn't see anything wrong with marrying a woman (especially considering the unfair laws and that we had a president, Clinton, who himself didn't mind lying under oath -- something one would have to do in that immigration interview). 

Sarah (Jane Elliott) and Marcel (Justin Tensen) lying through their teeth during their greencard interview in Between Love & Goodbye (2008)

Anyway, a few years ago I made a movie about a couple going through this ordeal. In Between Love & Goodbye (which, since a few days ago, is now a total period piece!) French Marcel marries his lesbian friend Sarah to be able to stay in the US with his American boyfriend Kyle. In case you haven't seen it, Between Love & Goodbye is a drama and doesn't have quite the Hollywood-ending most of my romantic comedies are known for.  Once when asked what films I would compare it to, I said its a mixture of the movies GreencardWar of the Roses, and A Streetcar Named Desire -- but more gay. So if you know any of those films you know things won't necessarily end that well. For me it's bittersweet to think of how differently things might have turned out for Kyle and Marcel, and for the people who inspired them, if they instead had met and fallen in love in this day and age. 

Happy Pride 2013!
Empire State Building, Pride Weekend 2013

1 comment:

  1. Love your post and having seen the film I can understand where you're coming from. Although have to say that Kyle's sibling was rather more to blame I feel. She made me mad I'm afraid, never felt like wishing a film character gone in so many horrible ways as her. I'm sure somewhere there were some redeeming features.
    Anyway I digress, it is such a brilliant thing to see this dreadful law repealed at last and for equality to win the day. I hope that if and when you get married, you'll celebrate in magnificent style x
    Jo x


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